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Cartesian Questions For Confusion

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On my Life Coaching diploma level 7 course I demonstrate and the delegates practice many useful tools and techniques. These tools and techniques range from how to convert an inquiry into a paying client to how to use NLP when coaching. One of the easiest to use and most effective tools covered on the life coaching course, Cartesian Questions, can be used when a client is unsure or shows hesitancy in describing a goal or course of action.
When a client is confused or unsure of the next step, an average coach will run roughshod or skim over any doubts and go straight for actions. This is a natural response for non-trained coaches and sometimes
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Let your client drive the bus!

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Coaching Metaphor
Let your client drive the bus!

Remember that your client has all the resources they need within them and resist the temptation to give advice or directional contributions to the coaching session. Simply get on your clients bus and go along for the magical mystery tour letting your client do the driving and the coach becomes the passenger.

Passengers do not tell the driver how to drive, which route to take, how the bus functions, what to do in the event of an accident, they just watch interested in the scenery (behaviours) or asking the driver about the route (client background/goals/ideas) and which roads the driver could take to reach the destination (outcome). The passenger may mention a route they had heard about so the driver could have choices but the passenger does not drive and therefore the decision on the roads to take is down to the driver (client).

Sometimes the passenger points out things of interest along the way (successes/achievements) If the bus driver becomes lost you can look at the ordinance survey maps (Beliefs and Values elicitations) or the country map (goals) to decide which route would best get you both back on track towards the destination (outcome).

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Money Is Not The Driver

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As the quote says, ‘Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.’

I think this quote sums up Life Coach Training very neatly. What do I mean by that? Well, money offers a route towards wherever you wish to go. Just like the ICANDO coaching model we use, where you follow the process of the ICANDO model either in whole, or part, depending on your clients’ chosen direction. The coach will use the model when coaching to discover the Read More

Wealth and Wants

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Before being diagnosed with terminal cancer I was seen as a high achiever and one to strive to earn more, keep more, have more. It is interesting that during this period in my life I thought I was happy. That is to say I was invited to the right parties, wore expensive designer clothes, went to the openings and right shows, entertained at the ‘in’ restaurants, drove the right car, you get the picture!
Then life threw me two brilliant curve balls. The first was Read More

You Choose To Believe Your Own Beliefs. Therefore You Can Choose To Change Them.

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Life Coaching Handbook Bestseller

Life Coaching Handbook Bestseller

You Choose To Believe Your Own Beliefs. Therefore You Can Choose To Change Them.  Extract From The Life Coaching Handbook. Everything You Need To Be An Effective Life Coach, Chapter 4 Essential Coaching Beliefs.

Anthony Robbins says,

‘It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped’.

One of your key moments of decision is when you decide not to believe in limiting beliefs and then help your clients to do the same.
Here is a very powerful and easy way to change old habits and beliefs. Think of a person who you consider to be very skilful in what it is that you want to be able to do. Now model that person. Stand in front of a mirror (in private) and mimic the ways they hold their body, talk, laugh, breathe, move and anything else you can think of.
Consider how they get what they want, how they stand, sit, walk, gesticulate. Think about what they do that you currently do not do. Then ask this question, ‘What would you need to believe Read More